My niece and I went to the mall and I allowed her to spend some time playing in the play area. She knows no stranger so she immediately started playing with two other girls. The three of them started to play “puppies”. The biggest one said to my niece, “ I am only five and the other girl is only four so you have to be the mother.” My niece is only four too and she knew this so she looked at her and said, “well I am only four too.” The five year old, who was obviously bigger than my niece, started pouting and said, “I don’t want to be the mother.”
Maybe it is just a kid thing but I found her statement very interesting. The size and age difference was very obvious in this case yet she chose to throw off the responsibility of being the more mature one on the younger ones. I assume that she felt the weight of being the oldest and having more responsibilities was less fun than being the immature childish one.
Do we have this same mentality at times? “Lord I don’t want to do this…why don’t you let somebody else do this”. Or, “I don’t want to be held responsible for all of these lives so I will just play the lesser role here.” Or, “I never get to have fun…I just want to do what I want to do for a little while.”
We may not verbalize this all the time but if attitudes and behaviors could talk, which they do tell a whole lot, then we will hear these exact statements come out.
It is time to step up to the plate and take responsibility for your self, your actions, and the things that you intentionally allow to happen in your life. God is looking for those who are willing and ready to take on the challenge of being all that He has called us to be. Yes, it is a challenge because shifting from our way of thinking and being to the way He wants us to think and be is a major paradigm shift that takes some work and time to get accustom to.
If you are wondering if you are maturing or not then take an analysis of a few areas in your life:
- Behavior: Does your actions line up with what God wants you to do?
“But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.” – James 1:22
- Talk: Are the things that come out of your mouth full of life and pleasing to God?
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” – Proverbs 18:21
- Walk: Is it apparent to others around you that you are different and walking with the Lord?
“Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul. 12 Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.” – I Peter 2:11-12
- Heart: Are you merciful, grace giving, forgiving, and loving towards others (even difficult people)?
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, 45 that you may be sons of your Father in heaven…” – Matthew 5: 43-45
- People: Does your choice of friends and/or boyfriends/girlfriends reflect your relationship with God?
“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”- I Corinthians 15:33
- Private: Does your life when nobody else is watching match the same life that you portray in public (assuming the public life would be better if they do not match)?
“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.” – Romans 12:1
- Mind: Do you constantly have defeating thoughts and/or ungodly/impure thoughts?
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.” – Romans 12:2
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” – Philippians 4:8
If you said no to behavior, talk, walk, heart, people, and private then take some time to pray and ask God to show you the specific areas that you need to work on. If you said yes to mind then also ask God to reveal those ungodly beliefs to you and help you to renounce those lies and replace them with new godly truths.