Love Coma

“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse [stir not up] or awaken love until it so desires [till he please].”

– Song of Solomon 2:7; 3:5; & 8:4 NIV [KJV] 

“All the single ladies, all the single ladies…put your hands up! Uh uh oh uh uh oh oh oh oh uh uh oh!” Haha okay jk but thanks Beyonce.

Okay so, it is Valentine’s Day!! Happy Valentine’s Day!!

I know that today is SAD (Single’s Awareness Day) for some of you but I promise you that it is not that bad. When thinking about what to write today on this lovely Love day I thought of the verse above that is mentioned three times in Songs of Solomon (note: if something is repetitive then I’d like to think that it has some huge importance that we need to pay attention to).

The scripture above says for us to not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. This makes me think way back to Genesis 2 when God put Adam in a deep sleep as he made  his woman.  Then this made me think of induced comas. Yes I know, fleeting thoughts but never the less; they have some similarities.

An online source states it this way…“When the brain swells it can be life-threatening, as it can constrict blood supply and destroy additional brain tissue. When a patient is put in a medically induced coma or deep state of unconsciousness, the brain is able to rest and swelling is more likely to decrease. When swelling is relieved, pressure on the brain also reduces, hopefully preventing some or all brain damage from occurring.” The length of the coma depends on the injury and the doctor will monitor how the person is progressing throughout the entire process.

For God to make Adam’s wife He had to first put him in a reversible “coma”. For many of those that are single, I feel that you too and/or your mate has been placed in a coma and to awaken/stir them up before it is time can be detrimental to your and his/her well-being.

The purpose of the coma is to help alleviate swelling and any further damage to the brain. You embracing and allowing this single season in your life is a necessity. Why? Because during this time God is able to deal with any issues that you have yet to deal with that are still an issue to your physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional side of life. During your “induced coma” He is able to “reduce the swelling” from your past injuries that you have yet to deal with and if you were to continue to go through life and ignore them then it has the potential to continue to cause more damage over time. Bringing past issues and pain from a previous relationship into your new relationship is obviously not a great idea so during this time God is able to help you work through all of those things before He wakes you and your mate up.

“Do not awaken love until it so desires.” Being single has it’s ups and it has it’s downs but truth be told it is a blessing just as being married is. It is all dependent on your perspective and attitude about it (not saying you want to be single forever though).

Take the singleness as an opportunity to become a better you. Take the singleness as an opportunity to draw closer to God. Forget about your two friends Ben & Jerry (icecream) and think of all of the positive benefits of being single in this season.


∆ Phone God: Thank you Daddy for being the ultimate example of what Love is! Thank you for pursing us and loving us beyond what we deserve. Whether we are single or married we thank you and are content. Help us to turn our stinkin’ thinkin’ into thinking that is constructive and beneficial to us as we continue to focus on you and the assignments that you have given us. Thank you for the time I have and I plan to use what I have to the fullest. Thank you Love! In Jesus name, Amen.

∆ Chew on this:

  •  “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” – Genesis 2: 21-23
  • “An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.” – I Corinthians 7:34
  • Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” – I John 4:8
  • “I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” – Philippians 4:11-13

∆ Ponder on this:

  • How does your relationship with God look when you are in a relationship? How does it look when you are not in a relationship?
  • How can you become a better you for yourself and your mate (future mate)?
  • What could be the disadvantages of you getting into a relationship before you are ready and before they are ready?

∆ Act on this:

  • If you have a negative attitude about being single then think of ways you can look at it in more of a positive and constructive light.
  • Use your single time effectively. Be productive while you have more time on your hands. (A spouse and a(n) child(ren) take time away from you and the things that you could be doing)

© Trillion Small 2012-2013 All Rights Reserved.


2 thoughts on “Love Coma

  1. True, True oh so true. Once again, wise beyond your years. After a horrific breakup I delved into depression so deep that I escaped into marriage to dull the pain of it. I didn’t ask God, or learn how I like my eggs cooked, or do the countless things one can do unfettered by marriage. Marriage is a gift if chosen by God and a curse if chosen by self. I realize this now, but it took me 20 years to come to terms with it.

    • You are oh so so so correct! Only if it is God ordained it will be a gift! I love your story…I think you should write a book 🙂 You could encourage so many people who have gone through or are still dealing with the same struggles!

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