This picture of a broken side mirror made me think of individuals who have broken and painful reflections of things that have occurred in their past. A side mirrors’ purpose is to help the driver see what is behind and/or on the side of them. If positioned correctly, it helps alleviate the drives blind spots by a great deal.
If a driver’s side mirrors are broken then it will hinder their driving quite a bit. This sounds a bit crazy considering that the driver is moving forward and not backward but it is true. Glancing back in these mirrors helps the driver move smoothly forward. Before shifting lanes you look to assure that there are no cars next to you or quickly approaching.
I associate broken side mirrors with having broken reflections of the past because without being able to healthily glance back over our life (whether the events were positive or negative), we are placed in a situation where our forward progress could be hindered and/or dangerous. Trying to move forward and maneuver through life with broken reflections could not only be harmful to yourself but to others. Imagine having this side mirror dangling from your car and trying to shift to the left lane. I’d imagine that it would be quite difficult to do and a bit dangerous.
If we have yet to let go of some things in our past then we have broken side mirrors. Our past has the ability to propel us forward in a positive or a negative direction. Our reflections and perspective of it, however, can help determine that direction.
For example, if our past taught us that all men are abusive and drunk and we decide to carry that into our present then that past reflection could hinder all of our interactions with men. Another example, if our past taught us that all authority figures can not be trusted because they will misuse you and overstep their boundaries then as an adult many, if not all of our interactions with those of higher status and power than ourselves may be full of great tension, discomfort, and lack of trust.
Many of us are walking around looking just like this car. We say we have forgiven those who hurt us and we say we have gotten past it but our unfinished business in the yesterday is showing itself in our today but we try to disguise it and make it seem as if that was “old news”. To you it may seem over and done with but it is very apparent that that is not the case what so ever. The way in which you interact with others and the way in which you progress in life could very well have a lot to say about how you have dealt with your past and how you are utilizing it now; for the good or the bad.
What has happened is not a determinant for what will happen. A bad past does not and should not dictate the outcome of our future. Two people can have the exact same past as children but as adults you end up with two totally different people. I feel that perspective has a great deal to do with this difference you see along with resilience, temperament, and other internal and external factors.
I love Tyler Perry’s story of how when he finally forgave his abusive father he then began to experience great success in his personal and business life (read more here about his testimony). His reflections of his dad and his past were all negative and full of forgiveness but whenever he finally forgave his father he then was able to move forward with great success. It’s definitely something to think about.
Don’t let your past dictate your future.
∆ Phone God: Thank you Daddy that you have everything under control. I know that all things work together for the good of those who love you and are called according to purpose. I thank you for giving me new ways to look at my past and helping me change my perspective where changes needs to occur. I will not let my past hurts dictate my future. I know that there are great things ahead for me and I plan to obtain them all. Thank you for your diligent guiding hand every step of the way. In Jesus name, amen.
∆ Chew on this:
- “Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, now it shall spring forth; shall you not know it?” – Isaiah 43:18-19
- “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” – Matthew 6:14-15
∆ Ponder on this:
- What does your reflections of your past look like?
- Are you still harboring un-forgiveness of self or others?
∆ Act on this:
- Ask God to reveal to you if you have any “stinkn’ thinkn’” about things in your past and make it your best effort to change perspectives.
- Forgive yourself if you have not already.
- Forgive others if you have not already.
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